Mary Jaffray Cuyler '60

November 16, 1942 - May 8, 2020

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With sadness, we report the passing of Mary Jaffray Cuyler '60.

Mary Jaffray Cuyler was born in Cambridge, MA and died in Cambridge on May 8, 2020. A lifelong Quaker, she was a wonderful friend to many. Choosing to never marry, she pursued a varied career and earned an MA in social work in 1989. Her passion for music began on 16th Street after an interaction with Friends Seminary teacher Jessie B. Winterbottom in the third grade who pulled her aside and praised her musical pitch. This moment sparked a lifelong relationship with music. She is survived by her sister, Susanna Cuyler ’63, brother-in-law Neil Sloane, step-siblings Joseph Stillman and Madeline Iswalt. A note found in her desk read, “Never pregnant, self-supporting whole adult life, MA Social Work, swimmer across ponds with friends.”